Are we teaching our kids to say lie everyday?

How many times do we say our kids “Close your eyes and sleep, otherwise police will come” or distract them from the mobile they want by pretending as if crow took it or it got lost? Why can't we speak that it is time to sleep or you cannot play with the mobile.

One fine day when kid comes back with the excuse that my friend broke the toy, we would scold him for telling a lie. Why cannot we speak the truth from very beginning, from the day child is born? Do we think they are too small to understand truth or we are finding easy way out to tackle the situation? Are we putting the responsibility of our inability of handling the kid on innocence of the little kid? Are we not compromising with the righteousness or “Dharma” of being a parent? Are we not teaching them to tell a lie everyday?  If the foundation of building is weak, can we dream of building skyscraper over it?

Let us revive the Dharma of parenting to build a responsible society and a nation; ultimately let us make our contribution in making this world a happy place to live.

Acknowledgement: I express my heartfelt gratitude to the group of enlightened souls called Golok Express,  for bestowing me with the knowledge that I could write this article. Many thanks to the LORD for choosing me as an instrument to spread this knowledge.

Disclaimer- This blog does not promote any religion, faith or sectarian thought. This blog is platform for sharing my journey to spiritualism. I apologize if any of the thought expressed in this blog is against any religious faith or belief.

Do you see the glass half empty or half full?

“I could not keep up to my commitments?”

“I am learning to make realistic commitments and I do not repent even if I achieve 80%.”

“My child is no more among top ten students in the class?”

“My child could not make to top ten but I know he is good at concepts.”

“I wish I could reach back home early?”

“I have less time at home, let me give my 100% percent to my family.”

Have you ever pondered the kind of stories we tell to oneself, can actually make or break our day? It is all about whether we can see the glass half empty or half full; it could be the glass of our commitments, expectations, plans, or each and every moment of our life. When expectations are not met, we can either lament or realize it is best to expect from oneself than from others. We can either think, “ I am a failure.” or “ I can do better.” We can live life the way it unfolds or pave the way for better tomorrow.

One might argue that seeing the glass always half full is actually a sign of procrastination or laziness. There is very fine difference between being encouraging to oneself, belittling oneself, or fooling oneself.  Only a person of true inner strength can remain in state of encouragement and move up the ladder of life; such person sets goals seeing on which step of ladder he has reached rather than looking at what height his friends or colleagues are.

Why do we try to belittle oneself everyday? Why an effort is not acknowledged until it is substantial?  Can one drive a car for 100 km by putting just one liter of petrol? Do you think our body needs petrol of encouragement to reach our ultimate destination, the abode of Almighty? After all we all are on journey to reach the Almighty and the key for making this journey enjoyable is to see our glass always half full.

Acknowledgement: I express my heartfelt gratitude to the group of enlightened souls called Golok Express,  for bestowing me with the knowledge that I could write this article. Many thanks to the LORD for choosing me as an instrument to spread this knowledge.

Disclaimer- This blog does not promote any religion, faith or sectarian thought. This blog is platform for sharing my journey to spiritualism. I apologize if any of the thought expressed in this blog is against any religious faith or belief.

What is happiness?

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Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy; this is how Wikipedia defines happiness. However, what comprises happiness might vary with each individual. But how can a feeling for which whole human kind is hankering for vary with time, place, person or circumstances? Is happiness abstract? Is abstract achievable?

If happiness is end result of positive thoughts that sparkles from feeling of contentment, then what is stopping us from being satisfied? If we all understand the true meaning of “grass is greener on other side”, then why are we unable to come out of this race of chasing greener grass every day? If we all know there is nothing like “perfect” in this world; none of our relations, work, holiday, possessions, and me "myself" can be “perfect”; then why are we not coming out of this vicious trap of expecting “perfection”? If we all agree with the fact that money cannot buy happiness but yes it can buy comfort; then why are we not setting limits for our comfort and be happy?

Research also suggests that happiness is a combination of how satisfied we are with your life and how good we feel on a day-to-day basis rather than momentary time of elation as a result of alcohol, drugs, possessions or relationships. Psychologists have even prepared S.T.A.G.E. framework that helps you build five key happiness skills: Savor, Thank, Aspire, Give, Empathize. (http://www.happify.com/public/articles/the-5-skills-that-will-increase-your-happiness/). These skills might help in achieving happiness, but is this the real mantra to be happy?

Let us come back to what is happiness? We all agree that happiness is being satisfied with what we have. But this does not mean that we sit back satisfied with illness, poverty or problems; happiness lies in fighting the tough times with best of efforts without lamentations or expectation of results. Interestingly, some might face tough times in trivial things like choosing the right dress for a party while others might face the same degree of anxiety in an interview for a job he/she always wanted. 

So, the key to happiness is satisfaction and satisfaction comes from accepting our present situation without lamentation. We all have experienced that lamentations cannot improve our present situations, rather complicate them further by draining out our positive energy. Like every dark cloud has a silver lining; happiness lies in finding the ray of hope in our tough times. Happiness is understanding that "failures are stepping stone to success"; and gathering courage to climb that stone of hurdle to reach success.

Lamentation foster agitation and one cannot put in sincere efforts with agitated mind. Once our mind is out of turmoil that tough times brings, happiness lies in doing our duties with sincere efforts without expectation for results. Expectation of results, is like giving the key of our happiness in to the hands of our boss, relations or consumers. The good result of our effort should be considered as blessing from God while the bad results to be result of your past deeds. Taking credit of work inflates the false ego within us; this state of temporary happiness associated with false ego is sure to dwindle.

Happiness is thus not abstract, but right there infront of you waiting for you to knock its door. All it takes is a little change of seeing the good around you and enjoying the journey to achieve your goals in life; putting in your sincere efforts and leaving the fruits of your action to the Almighty.

Acknowledgement: I express my heartfelt gratitude to the group of enlightened souls called Golok Express,  for bestowing me with the knowledge that I could write this article. Many thanks to the LORD for choosing me as an instrument to spread this knowledge.

Disclaimer- This blog does not promote any religion, faith or sectarian thought. This blog is platform for sharing my journey to spiritualism. I apologize if any of the thought expressed in this blog is against any religious faith or belief.

What is Spiritualism?

Is it going to temple, church or mosque daily? Is it compassion for the poor? Is it being righteous in your deeds? Or is it reading religious scriptures? The answer is yes yet NO! Yes being righteous, worship, compassion, religious reading is part of spiritualism; but not spiritualism.

Then what is spiritualism? Spiritualism is way of life that takes you to spiritual abode. Hey are you kidding me…You are making plans for my death? Nay! Spiritual abode is right here only if you could perceive it. The end result of journey to spiritualism is state of happiness, peace, fearlessness and eternal bliss. So in simple words, spiritualism is way of life that would help you achieve permanent happiness.

Spiritualism is living in the present moment; not lamenting the past moments or planning for the distant future, yes planning is important but only for things you can control. And only thing you can control is your sincere efforts according to the situation you are put in daily.

Spiritualism is giving the best to each and every endeavor in life; whether you are doing an old boring job or an exciting adventure sports. Spiritualism is giving your best and at the same time understanding you cannot control the results; after all you cannot control the mood swing of your wife, or anger of your boss, choices of your consumer, for that matter you cannot control anybody around you.


Spiritualism means being satisfied; this does not mean you should not strive for comfort in life. The problem is that definition of comfort varies; taken that if each one of us could define what is our expectation from life with regards to wealth, possessions, career and most important relationships, and then striving in balanced way to reach that goal is spiritualism. Enjoying untimely rain on most awaited luxurious holiday is spiritualism; after all you cannot control rain? Forgiving your loved ones for not living up to your expectation is spiritualism; after all no relationship is perfect?

Spiritualism is being righteous; how you can be righteous when what you think is right is actually wrong for someone else? Should you approach a neutral person, government, religious scriptures, or you yourself? Of course you yourself…yes if you are true to yourself you know what is right; but remember if one is not true to oneself he can justify even killing a friend for good. The journey to reach righteousness is the journey of spiritualism.

Well, answering “what is spiritualism?” is beyond the capacity of any human brain…all I did was to pen down my understanding of spiritualism according to the ability bestowed by the all great Almighty. Let us embark on this journey to spiritualism together by sharing our understanding of SPIRITUALISM. So, please comment about your understanding of spiritualism.

Acknowledgement: I express my heartfelt gratitude to the group of enlightened souls called Golok Express,  for bestowing me with knowledge that I could write this article. Many thanks to the LORD for making me an instrument to write this blog.


Disclaimer- This blog does not promote any religion, faith or sectarian thought. This blog is platform for sharing my journey to spiritualism. I apologize if any of the thought expressed in this blog is against any religious faith or belief.